A reoccurring topic among my friends and family is the constant reminder that I am single, because apparently I didn't know… However, this isn't a blog to rant about the people always reminding me, but more so, due to always being told why I shouldn't be single or why it is good to be single, I thought I might as well stop and basically walk through my current thinking of being single.
These days, it’s typical for people to seek out relationships as their number one priority because they believe this is what life is all about. If you are devoting all of your time to seeking a partner, chances are, you are ignoring all of the other amazing things life has to offer. However, with this said; finding your life long partner and getting married, starting a family and growing old together is one of these amazing things life has to offer.
Over the years I have learnt to value my independence. You see finding someone that you are going to spend the rest of your life with isn't as simple as picking an apple from a tree. It takes time. Many people out of the fear of being alone, social pressure or even financial stability will settle with someone – even someone that isn't right for them. I have decided to look past this hype; and within doing so I have learnt to be myself, to love myself (still learning) and to love all the people I surround myself with.
So what do I do with all this free time you ask…? Well firstly I don’t have that much free time but let me explain.
Being young, eager and willing to learn, I am ready to put in some hard work in my young years to make my later years more enjoyable. Being single enables me to focus on my career and preparing me for the years to come. Does this mean more hours than play… usually, does it mean some more dollars… yes, but what it does do for sure is grow me, create a secure foundation for my future as well as for my future family. How do I do this? I currently work 2 jobs, one full time and the other part time and I also have my own start up business, which just earns a little cash on the side.
I have found that happiness is derived from surrounding yourself with people you love and who love you in return. These are the people I share my experiences with, whether it be my best mates, work mates and my family. These people are my support circle, the ones which I can be proud of and the ones who are proud of me.
One thing I've recently taken on is getting myself into shape. Sometimes I can’t understand how I even let myself get so unhealthy… however, I managed to jump the gun and get back on track. Having lost 20kg’s now within a year, this not only makes me look better healthier, but also has made me feel better and boosted my confidence in so many ways. Now I do something active at least 6 days a week, which helps me feel alive and pumped for each day ahead. As I have progressed I have become more and more motivated and I will continue to keep shaping my body to what it deserves.
While getting myself into shape has been a priority, this has also kick-started my own drive into making myself a better person all-round and I try to do this daily. With this in mind, it has meant not only trying to cut out bad habits, but also cutting out people. I am trying to enhance my living and how I live and sometimes in order to do that - things need to change. I try to make sure I am living a life where I am growing and improving daily. This means gathering the strength and courage to do something different, to push a little harder and get outside my comfort zone.
It is my life and I want the best that I can have. Shouldn't we all? I can’t expect to achieve more in life if I am willing to accept the bare minimum. I have set standards in my life which I abide by and live by, these are what define my ability to grow and to go the extra mile. As blunt as it may be, this could be a very reason of why I am still single. Simply because I want the best for me, I want to marry someone who will be my life partner, someone who I am going to spend the rest of my days growing with, loving and of course starting a family with. For a hint of what this best for me looks like… let me give some points:
· A God-fearing Woman
· A Great sense of humour
· Someone who knows what she wants
· Has self-worth
· Values fitness
· A woman that doesn't go out (not always out on the scene), but still can show out
· Isn't annoying (nag, unappreciative , etc)
· Unafraid of being submissive
There is nothing worse than being broke and living pay check to pay check. Over the last couple of years I have increased my financial awareness, I have learnt ways to optimize my savings and I have even earned more money in the past couple of years then my entirety beforehand. Right now as I am single I have the perfect opportunity to save, to invest and to grow my financial self wisely. This isn't a time to spend it on pointless things. I have spent hours teaching and training myself on how to budget and actually budget. I have also started investing in shares and currently preparing myself to enter real estate as well.
So I guess in summary… Being single is a phase in my life. The time will come when being single is a faded memory, and this could change in the blink of an eye. But until that time, I shall continue to work on myself, physically, mentally, financially and work to build a foundation for my future.
Don’t agree? Don’t like what I have said here? You do agree or you do like what I have said here? Regardless, if you have a comment that you would like to make, please let me know. You can comment below, or simply drop an email: contact.clfurlong@gmail.com
